Her (2013), dir. Spike Jonze
What the actual fuck is wrong with white boys
Taller than 5’3” privilege is being able to climb in or drive in any car
Taller than 5’3” privilege is not having to worry about being able to see over any dashboard in any car
Taller than 5’3” privilege is not needing to ask how far forward seat will go
Taller than 5’3” privilege is adjusting the seat only once
Taller than 5’3” privilege is not worrying about whether you will be able to drive a friend’s car
Taller than 5’3” privilege is not having to find a balance between getting your seat up high enough to see over the dashboard but still being able to reach the pedals with your feet
People should never self-diagnose, especially if they’re teenagers. There’s a reason why it’s much harder to professionally diagnose a teenager than an adult: teenagers are moody, anxious, unhappy and impulsive by nature. If you’re not a professional, you cannot diagnose yourself objectively. You will look at a list of symptoms and think “hey, that sounds just like me, I guess I have Borderline personality disorder, that explains everything!”.
And what’s wrong with that? Well, for starters, you won’t understand how serious mental illnesses are. Just because you are moody and irritable doesn’t mean you’re sick. Google the symptoms for Borderline personality disorder. “Problems with regulating emotions and thoughts, impulsive behavior, unstable relationships with people, distorted and unstable self-image" etc. Now, what teenager doesn’t fit into those?
I’ve seen people self-diagnose and use their “diagnosis” as an excuse to not do things way too many times. Can’t stand school, I have Chronic fatigue syndrome. Got denied a job at a job interview, it’s because I have autism. Go to sleep at 3am every night, I have insomnia.
There is nothing wrong with suspecting you might have a mental illness and checking symptoms, etc, but you are not a professional and you cannot objectively diagnose yourself. If you suspect you are mentally ill, GO TO A PROFESSIONAL. If you can’t afford that, don’t, but don’t go around telling people you have autism or OCD or bipolar disorder when you haven’t been diagnosed. You can say “I have compulsive thoughts” or “I am depressed” or “I have trouble making friends”, or even “I think I might have schizophrenia” without diagnosing yourself.
If and when you do see a professional, tell them you’ve thought about it and you think you might have OCD or schizophrenia or whatever. It will help them.
If you know someone, anyone, who has studied psychology, ask them to take a look. Really, anyone, psychology student or not, would be better at diagnosing you than you yourself, because once again, you can’t look at yourself objectively. You may think that your mood swings are abnormal but people around you probably don’t. Ask them, “Do I have abnormal mood swings?” It’s not that hard.
If you self diagnose your bipolar and then put it in your about me/side bar then I’m really gonna doubt that you actually have it.
The culture of self diagnosis on tumblr has to stop. Every second person is claiming “anxiety disorder” and being “on the scale of Austim” like it’s some sort of cool club to be part of. Unless you have had the disorder/ illness confirmed by a professional then you cannot claim to have that disorder. (And before someone make that usually shitty argument, no I’m not talking about the common cold or a broken arm). Yes, it may be expensive to go to the doctor, and maybe it might even be inconvenient, but what self-diagnosers of Biploar/ Depression/ PCOS etc etc don’t understan and is that when you claim to have one of these disorders because Web MD told you so, you are working to erase the people who actually legitimately have the disorder and you are convoluting people’s attitudes towards the problem. For instance, being bipolar isn’t just having mood swings every once in the while. It can be extremely debilitating. But a lot of people wouldn’t understand this because all they’ve seen is 20 somethings online claiming that being bipolar is “I get mad really easily.” Things like the ridiculous triggers and demands that these self diagnosers demand is also contributing to this. Why do you think that phrases like “ugh she’s so bipolar” or “I’m so OCD” have become part of the average person’s vernacular? Because people are misrepresenting the seriousness and reality of these disorders.
It is not cool or glamorous to have a mental illness or physical illness. I don’t understand why so many people want to be Autistic or be Depressed. Not many people are claiming to have the illnesses that aren’t sensationalised on television or in the media, but the second being a sociopath becomes cool then everyone wants to be one, (hon, you aren’t a sociopath if you sit on tumblr all day blogging about your feels and crying about fictional characters) or the second Aspergers apparently gives you heightened intelligence everyone is claiming it. Is it because it’s easier to label your behaviours and have a reason as to why you can’t deal with/ control them. Probably. Are you self diagnosing because you’re too afraid to go to the doctor and find out that you in fact have nothing wrong with you? Yes.
And when you go to the doctor/professional, and when you do get told that you do have the disorder/illness you are claiming to have, guess what? Then you get treatment and you can actually progress rather then sitting on your ass, ignoring responsibilities and blogging about how life is so hard.
Also, generally people with the actual disorders aren’t putting it in sparkly letters on their little “about me” sidebar. I’ve had depression and I have epilepsy and I know that it’s not something I’m broadcasting to the world as vital info along with my name and age. That’s the difference—for people who actually have these problems don’t want it to define them. People who are self diagnosing are desperate for it to define them and their behaviours.
But let’s be honest, hardly any of the self diagnoses on here would actually be professionally diagnosed because 9/10 it is just a desperate attempt to be a special snowflake. Seriously guys, get a new hobby.
I have wondered about this for so long.
Kurt Cobain’s daughter on Lana romanticizing young death/suicide
watch and learn loser